When I first found out someone in my family was infected with HIV all it did was raise a lot of questions in my head. I have to say I took it in a very calm way. I didn’t want to ask too many questions to the person who was infected in my family, so I researched about HIV and found out a lot of information.
For me, not thinking about it much is my way of dealing with it. I try to avoid situations where I have to talk about it, unless I really trust the person and I’m confident they will help me.
I’m 16 and basketball and music are my ESCAPES - it’s my way of dealing with things. When I play and listen to music or play basketball, I can’t think of anything else but just a deep sense of satisfaction and joy. I love my hobbies and although it’s not like I’m trying to completely blank out the HIV situation in my life, not talking about it and doing this relieves me in a way.
All I try to do is try to make the person with HIV in my family’s life easier by either helping them cope with the situation or cheering them up, because to me they are still the same person. In my eyes, we are all imperfect, we all make mistakes.
I love that person in my family with HIV. Together we fall down at times BUT we always stand up again.
I am 14 and I have not got any issues about my mum having HIV. To me she is just my mum, there is nothing wrong or different with her.
To me, it feels like I have always known she has HIV. I am happy she told me about it when I was younger because I can just accept it. Sometimes I fear that she will die soon, but she says the truth is that everyone dies. With the right medication it's possible my mum can live for as long as anyone can.